Sunday, January 17, 2010

A Life

Nate Stein 1920-2010

Thank you so much for all your beautiful words of comfort last week while my dad was in the hospital. My father passed away on Friday as the sun was going down with all of us around him, holding both of his hands and each other. It's difficult to accept the loss of someone you had so much time to love here in this world, here that we know. Grieving is a shapeless process.

...it is not news that we live in a world
Where beauty is unexplainable
And suddenly ruined
And has its own routines. We are often far
From home in a dark town, and our griefs
Are difficult to translate into a language
Understood by others.

Charlie Smith
"The Meaning of Birds"


39 comments:

hmstrjam said...

our thoughts are with you miss bon!!

Laura @ the shorehouse. said...

:-(

Christine--RHP said...

Oh Deb.
Very sorry to hear this news.. You must be devastated.
It is beautiful that you were all there together with him. What a blessing to have such a loving family.

Anonymous said...

Today I will celebrate a life well-lived and a man well-loved!

cindy said...

we're so terribly sorry, deb. your dad's generation has seen so many incredible events in this world and he was surrounded by the people he loved most when he left it. even if he was 90, it's too soon. yes, grieving is a shapeless process and one with peaks and valleys. if we can help with yours, please let us know. we've had our own experiences with it. xo, cindy & scott

lazysundae said...

Deb I'm so sorry for your loss. Your dad was such a sweet man - I'm glad he was able to live a long life surrounded by people he loved. My love goes out to you and your family.

peachey said...

xoxo

Cannelle Et Vanille said...

such beautiful words deb. all the love he gave in this life, he had in return when all of you gathered around him to say goodbye... goodbye for now. you know my love goes out to you. xxoo

vintage simple said...

Oh, Deb, I am so very sorry... Words fail me. I wish I could give you a huge hug. I am sending you all my love.

-maria

isabelle said...

so sad ... send you sweet thoughts

blue moss said...

i'm so sorry...
thinking and saying a prayer for you and your family....
michelle

Estorbo said...

Keess.

xxx
^^

erin said...

you've chosen the perfect words. hoping you find some comfort in them now. my heart aches for you, dear deb. all my love.

cindy* said...

these things are not easy, my heart goes out to you dear deb. i am sending all my love your way...xoxo

wool and misc said...

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

that's amazing that you all got to be there. all the best.

Vana said...

my thoughts are with you sweet friend! Be well. All my love.

Vana

Anonymous said...

Very sorry to learn this. Know the special place your father occupied in your heart.

bigBANG studio said...

Sweetest Deb, all my love and thoughts are with you and your family. Your father must have been so comforted by having his loving family around him as he passed from one life into the next; if you can take any solace in knowing that his greatest gift to the world is raising such a talented, creative, articulate, loving daughter, than perhaps that will temper the pain when you come up for air. at some point there *will* be a time when you can get through the day and feel like a human again, and hopefully your love for him will inspire you to keep doing what you're doing but with even more passion and energy. we are all thinking of you and sending you our support and love.

xoxo.

heidi said...

Aw Deb... I'm so sorry to see this news. It's such a gift that you were able to be there at his time, to say good bye, to tell him and show him how much you love him.
If you need anything, just let me know.
xoh

lotta said...

Thinking of you and your family - remembering my own fathers death, many years ago now. Amidst all the sadness we must cherish the joy and wonder they brought to our lives.

alexkeller said...

my heart goes out to you

Julia said...

Deb, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I will keep you close to my heart thoughts!

jennifer said...

Oh Deb, so sorry to hear the news...but I'm glad you were all together. I'll be thinking of you...

Amanda said...

I'm so, so sorry, Deb. You're in my thoughts this week. Sending lots of love to you and your family. ((((()))))

montague said...

thinking of you, and your family, and especially your dear father...

Joyce said...

Hi Deb, I came over from Cindy's blog (quaint handmade) to say how very sorry I am on loss of your dad. I lost my dad a little over a year, and know the pain I felt and feel, so my heart goes out to you and your family. Sending you cyber hugs. xo

Melissa de la Fuente said...

Oh God dear darling Deb....
I am so very, very sorry.
I am sending you so much love and friendship. i am here if you need anything at all.
With so much love,
Melissa

limonana said...

So sad to hear the news. what a precious thing to be by his side at the last moments...sending you comfort & loving vibes from afar...if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here on the internets.

美麗之城 said...

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Mango Gal said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your father. My best to you and your family.

Chania said...

I am sorry for your loss. Such sadness for you and your family. Here is a lovely poem that I came across after the loss of a friend. It is by W. H. Auden. It sums up the unconsolable pain one feels after a loss like this, but has a beauty in the words.

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.



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Mary Jo from TrustYourStyle said...

Deb, I'm so sorry for your loss. He must've been a wonderful man to have a daughter as talented as you! All strength, peace, and love to you.

xo Mary Jo

bigBANG studio said...

hi sweet deb. just wanted to tell you i'm thinking of you. big hugs to you. xo.

beth beasley said...

hey deb--so sorry to hear about your dad. I remember him from your wedding... my heart is with you!

comfies said...

so sorry for your loss. sounds like you have a beautiful family full of togetherness and love....wishing all of you well.

Jennifer Hsu said...

What incredibly sad news. I'm so sorry, Deb.

Katrina said...
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Katrina said...

dearest deb, "grieving is a shapeless process" for certain. i am sending you so many thoughts and so much love. in these moments, our words are painfully imperfect, but we have to offer them to each other anyway. sending love...

Pepa said...

thinking of you and your family...

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